And what of it? So that happened. How much time needs to pass? I can function to a passable level, I have a job, I can somewhat maintain a relationship, I sort of have friends. Can I not get over this? He is not in my life so why does it matter so? I would like to exit, would that not be better for everyone? Of course it would and would prevent further problems for others. M said she liked seeing a different part of me because it was “real” and not the “always in control” T she has seen for years. She won’t like the rest.